Retired Lieutinent Colonel London Broil had served thirty (30) years in the US Marine Corps (USMC) receiving his discharge from Camp Mujuk in South Korea. He loved his battalion. He had been married since he was an enlisted private at MCRD Parris Island, South Carolina. He had matured well. He had a daughter. He loved his men as he loved his family. He was kind but stern. He was disciplined in service and expected discipline of others. He taught God's ways to his family and his men. "And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4)" He was faithful to God, his family and his country. Like a son, he prepared his daughter for her future role. He set his path unto the Lord and did not stray. He was a man amongst real men.
Unfortunaely, the kindly, old man, having aged, was exhausting his health. He required nursing. Sadly, the grand patriot suffered an injury from the nursing care. He complained about it often but his wife and daughter but they would not hear. The great patriot tired of being ignored and rudely dismissed. He voraciously sought to defend himself. The family told him, "Let go and let God! Just forgive and move on!" He objected sincerely as he understood their resistence to be obstruction of justice. He knew his research: "Not filing a police report isn't automatically obstruction of justice, but it can become obstruction if you actively hide evidence, lie to police, or prevent others from reporting/testifying about a crime, as obstruction involves intentionally impeding an investigation or legal process, not just failing to report. While there's no general duty to report every crime, intentionally interfering with law enforcement's ability to gather facts is a crime, with penalties varying by state and federal law." The family protested, "Why can't the Old Man just be grateful that he has home nursing care! He could be locked away in an institution. He's not being very nice to us1" The Old Man defended a Nation with a great many ovations. He, now, wants to defend himself, encounteering great resistance.
Abuse is the harmful mistreatment of someone or misuse of something, involving actions that cause physical, emotional, sexual, or financial injury, neglect, or exploitation, often by someone in a position of power, leading to severe physical/mental harm, isolation, or control, with common forms including domestic, child, and elder abuse, each with specific indicators like physical injury, intimidation, financial control, or neglect. To defend yourself, prioritize awareness, avoidance, and de-escalation, but be prepared for physical action using simple, powerful strikes to vulnerable areas (eyes, throat, groin) if necessary, focusing on creating distance to escape, not win a fight, using your voice and surroundings to your advantage. Empowerment self-defense teaches physical moves, boundary setting, and assertiveness to build confidence for various threats, from harassment to assault. Male assertiveness isn't inherently offensive to women; rather, it's often about gender bias and perception, where similar actions by men are praised as leadership, but by women are labeled aggressive or bossy, leading to double standards. True assertiveness (expressing needs respectfully) differs from aggression (demeaning others), but societal stereotypes blur this line, causing women to be penalized for traits men are encouraged to have, creating conflict and undermining female confidence. Toxic masculinity is a narrow, harmful set of traditional masculine norms that pressure men to suppress emotions, be tough, dominate others (especially women), and resort to violence or aggression, leading to negative impacts on men (mental health issues, isolation, addiction) and society (violence, sexism, homophobia). It emphasizes traits like emotional restriction, stoicism, and a need for power, often devaluing anything perceived as feminine and creating rigid gender roles. Addressing it involves self-reflection, open communication, challenging harmful stereotypes, and redefining healthy manhood beyond these rigid expectations. Galen Willis, PhD Candidate in the Cultural Studies Graduate Program, Queen's University, Ontario, in "Stop scolding men for being ‘toxic’", writes, "Legal scholar and community organizer Jamil Jivani, author of Why Young Men, says: We need to talk less about the “negative way of understanding masculinity” and more about what a “positive, affirmative identity in men …for the men among us who…need hope, optimism and moral encouragement.”" The abuse is not defending yourself. The abuse is being repudiated because you want to defend yourself.
Don't raise my grandson to be "nice"!
My grandson is not to be an "useful idiot" for the Radical Feminist Movement of the Left! Nice when unpackaged is not what is intended to be in modern America. My daughter gave me some disturbing news in her last visit. She told me that she was raising my grandson to be nice. I was appalled. I demanded that she not do so, for its the feminazation of the male child. No McClenton male child has ever been raised to be "nice". I demand you not and stop. Let me explain my ire. The word "nice" has a fascinatingly opposite origin, coming from Latin nescius ("ignorant, unaware"), meaning it once meant foolish or stupid in the 13th century before evolving through centuries to mean fussy, dainty, precise, agreeable, and finally, kind or pleasant today, showing a dramatic shift from negative to positive. Yes, being perceived as "nice" can often overlap with being a people-pleaser. Being a people-pleaser is rooted in insecurity, fear of rejection, and a need to manage others' feelings, making you a "doormat". People pleasing often leads to a lack of respect because it signals low self-worth, insecurity, and a lack of boundaries, making others perceive you as easily manipulated or lacking conviction, even though you're trying to earn approval; true respect comes from authenticity, self-respect, and setting clear limits, which shows you value yourself and teaches others how to treat you. People sense when you're not being genuine, and your excessive availability diminishes your perceived value, leading to resentment and burnout rather than the connection you seek. Aesop said, "If you try to please all, you please none." Aesop's Tales are a collection of short, classic stories, often featuring animals with human traits, that teach moral lessons (morals, ethics, life lessons) and are credited to Aesop, a storyteller from ancient Greece (c. 620-564 BCE). If true for over 3100 years, it is a natural law. Raise my grandson to be a Man.
The word "nice" does not appear in most major Bible translations, as it's a modern English term; instead, the Bible emphasizes stronger concepts like kindness, gentleness, and love, often from Greek words like chréstotés (useful, profitable) or agape (unconditional love), which involve truth, conviction, and courageous action, not just being pleasant or avoiding conflict. Biblical "kindness" is a deep, active virtue, contrasting with modern "niceness," which some suggest can be superficial or a way to avoid important truths or confrontation. Glen Fitzjerrell said, "Nowhere in the Bible does it say to be nice. It says to be kind, to be gentle, to be respectful, to give careful instruction when someone is messing up. Nice is way below all those things, because nice gets used as an excuse to never stand your ground and never have the courage (a virtue the Bible does call us to exercise) to say something that needs to be said." Over the term "nice", John Adams and George Washington valued virtue, charity, and moral conduct, linking them to good governance and a flourishing republic, with Adams emphasizing innate human goodness and Washington stressing peace, justice, and disciplined character for national well-being. Justice is not abuse unless not pursued.
Many confuse "kind" for "nice". In Luke 6:35, Jesus said, "But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil." Kind is translated from the Greek, Lexicon :: Strong's G5543 - chrēstos mraning:
- fit, fit for use, useful
- virtuous, good
- manageable
- mild, pleasant (as opp. to harsh, hard sharp, bitter)
- of things: more pleasant, of people, kind, benevolent
Kind pleases God. Nice pleases no one.
Feminism is a diverse movement and set of ideologies advocating for the political, economic, personal, and social equality of the sexes, aiming to end gender-based discrimination, oppression, and stereotypes to benefit everyone. It challenges patriarchal structures by addressing issues like equal pay, reproductive rights, ending violence against women, and ensuring equal opportunities in all aspects of life, recognizing how gender intersects with race, class, and identity (intersectionality). Rebecca West said. “I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat.” Former Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg said, "Women will only have true equality when men share with them the responsibility of bringing up the next generation." Something about Mother ism't good enough. In Genesis 2:24, it is written, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Sounds like women had the responsobility from the beginning. Mother is translated in the Hebrew Lexicon :: Strong's H517 - 'ēm, aprimitive word meaning:
- mother
- of humans
- of Deborah's relationship to the people (fig.)
- of animals
- point of departure or division
Mother of humans is not enough for feminists.
Those that subject themselves to feminism subscribe to tyranny-either to serve the tyrant or to become the tyrant. The object of feminism is tyranny. Tom Hicks of Founders Ministry in "#MeToo, Feminism, and Tyranny" writes, "Radical Feminism changed the cultural norm. According to radical Feminism, men and women have the same basic nature. Women can compete with men on the same terms. A woman is just “one of the guys.” And sexual abuse happens when men think of women as no different from other men, and believe it’s ok to treat them roughly. In contrast to the past, now, a man who stands up to protect a woman is too often seen as part of the problem for manifesting patriarchal attitudes.
So, Feminism has successfully shorn Western culture of its traditional norms." Tyranny refers to a form of government where power is exercised in an oppressive, arbitrary, and unjust manner. It typically involves the violation of laws that define how authority is distributed and exercised within a state. A tyrant is often characterized by their absolute authority, leading to an abuse of power that disregards the rights and freedoms of individuals. This term can also apply to any person, such as a harsh employer, who uses their power in an unrestrained and oppressive way. Tyranny seeks slaves not citizens. Slavery and tyranny are deeply intertwined concepts, historically linked by the idea that political oppression (tyranny) is analogous to the master-slave relationship, where a ruler exercises absolute, arbitrary power, stripping individuals of freedom and agency, as seen in ancient political thought and colonial systems where power structures relied on terror and subjugation. The tyrant forces people into a state of political slavery, while actual slave systems, like those in the Americas, mirrored tyranny through brutal control, making both forms of subjugation oppressive, often justified by notions of natural hierarchy or military conquest, but seen by many as fundamentally unjust. A slave is a person treated as property, forced into unpaid labor, and stripped of freedom. Radical feminism aims to achieve its goals—dismantling patriarchy and achieving women's liberation—through fundamental societal restructuring, moving beyond legal equality to transform male-dominated power systems, using tactics like consciousness-raising (CR) groups, public protest, creating women-centered spaces (like communes), making personal experiences political, and challenging norms around sexuality, violence, and family to achieve a truly egalitarian society.
The sordid, sick and twisted vein of feminism is that they are willing to use their "womb" to create the tyranny needed to implement the system of oppression and the slaves needed to execute the oppression. The Conversation's Victoria Margree in "Shulamith Firestone: why the radical feminist who wanted to abolish pregnancy remains relevant" writes, "With women freed from their traditional roles in reproduction, Firestone believed that a different kind of parenting could emerge. The nuclear family, which she saw as a symbol of male power, could be abolished and replaced by a diffuse structure of parenting in which children would be raised by groups of adults, named “households”. Sharing parental responsibilities would enable women to become mothers without having to sacrifice their former occupations and identities. Children would benefit from having nurturing relationships with multiple adults, while parenting would open up to people unable to become biological parents themselves."
See, Ken, she's talking about abolishing reproduction. You are FAKE NEWS!
Let me school you! In order to chain generations, you must produce a generation. Anybody hear of Hillary Clinton or Black Lives Matter? Clinton an American politician, lawyer, diplomat, and former First Lady never to become US President wrote a book entitled "It Takes a Village: And Other Lessons Children Teach Us". Clinton presents her vision for the children of America. She focuses on the impact individuals and groups outside the family have, for better or worse, on a child's well-being, and advocates a society which meets all of a child's needs. Mia Brett in "Hillary Rodham Clinton: Radical Feminist" writes, "Hillary’s most feminist act as First Lady was her 1995 UN speech in Beijing. Defying pressure both from the Clinton administration and from China to modify her remarks, Hillary gave a landmark civil rights speech in which she declared “Women’s rights are human rights.”" The Black Lives Matter (BLM) movement's approach to raising children, as outlined in its guiding principles, emphasizes building strong, queer-affirming "villages" and extended families to collectively care for children, disrupt patriarchal norms (like mothers working "double shifts"), and foster community, moving beyond the traditional nuclear family model by supporting diverse family structures, though the organization removed explicit "disrupting the nuclear family" language from its website after controversy, focusing more on collective care. This contrasts with traditional views but aligns with promoting diverse family support networks and anti-racist parenting through exposure and conversation. BLM believes "It Takes a Village". It upports raising children within strong community networks, where extended families and chosen families collectively care for them, reducing burdens on individual parents. BLM declares, "We deserve and thus we demand reproductive justice that gives us autonomy over our bodies and our identities while ensuring that our children and families are supported, safe, and able to thrive. " Randy Alcorn in "Black Lives Do Matter, But the BLM Organization Opposes Christian Values: So What Should We Do?" writes, "So the BLM organization defends the right to kill unborn girls and boys who themselves, by the way, deserve but are incapable of demanding the freedom not to be cut to pieces in abortion. But where is the reproductive justice for the unborn, male and female, black and white and every other race? Don’t we all exist because our mothers chose to give us life? Wasn’t that a good, noble and loving choice? Since black lives matter, don’t the youngest black lives matter too?" From the womb to the tomb, feminism delivers, pun intended.
In "the making of a slave". Willie Lynch delivered a speech on the bank of the James River in the colony of Virginia in 1712. Lynch was a British slave owner in the West Indies. He was invited to the colony of Virginia in 1712 to teach his methods to slave owners there. The term "lynching" is derived from his last name. He declared, "I HAVE A FULL PROOF METHOD FOR CONTROLLING YOUR BLACK SLAVES...DISTRUST IS STRONGER THAN TRUST AND ENVY STRONGER THAN ADULATION, RESPECT OR ADMIRATION...You must use the FEMALE vs. the MALE. And the MALE vs. the FEMALE. " How's that glass ceiling, feminists? To make a slave, you must control the mind. A core principle often cited in discussions of historical oppression, personal philosophy, and mental liberation. This idea emphasizes that while physical shackles are a means of control, true, long-term subjugation requires psychological manipulation to break an individual's will and sense of self. Minh Dang, MSW in "Mind Control" writes, "Slavery requires that people lose trust in themselves. If they can’t trust their own mind, their own capacities to defend themselves, to care for themselves, or to be autonomous people; they will sink into roles of dependency and, worse yet, feel helpless and hopeless. It requires that people lose their sense of identity. Slavery requires that people believe they are slaves, rather than treated as if they are slaves. Thus, as we continue to fight slavery, we need to ask: what leads people to believe they are slaves? No one comes to that belief on their own." In feminism, you are a slave to what you perceive not a free man who aptly responds to a stimulus.
In feminism, depression becomes a right of passage. Feminism views depression in women not just as an individual illness, but as deeply tied to systemic sexism, gender roles, economic inequality, violence, and societal pressures like the "good woman" ideal, highlighting how factors like heavy workloads, lack of power, and cultural expectations shape women's experiences. Feminist approaches advocate for understanding depression as a socially constructed experience, challenging pathologizing medical models, and promoting self-care and social change, rather than solely individual blame, to address the roots of women's heightened vulnerability to depression. In 2025, US statistics show women and young people face higher depression rates, with over 18% of adults affected overall, particularly teen girls (over 25%) and young women, linked to societal pressures, economic factors, and gender inequality; while some college mental health stats show slight improvement, women consistently report more depressive symptoms, though they're also more likely to seek therapy, highlighting ongoing disparities. In 2025, U.S. statistics show women experience higher rates of both depression and violence compared to men, with links identified between the two issues. Women are twice as likely as men to develop clinical depression during their lifetime. A notable political divide is emerging in the U.S., with 44% of women under 30 identifying as liberal compared to only 25% of young men, representing the largest gender gap on record in political orientation.
- National statistics show 44% of lesbian and 61% bisexual women have experienced rape and physical violence by an intimate partner compared to 35% of straight women.
- Twenty-six percent of gay men and 37% of bisexual men experienced intimate partner violence compared to 29% of straight men.
- For the transgender community, it’s 31–50%.
The Bible features many fathers raising sons, showing a spectrum from ideal to flawed, emphasizing instruction, discipline, and spiritual guidance, with examples like Adam (first father), Noah (savior), Abraham and Isaac, Issac and Jacob, David and Solomon, Eli and his sons, and Paul mentoring Timothy, illustrating themes of legacy, temptation, failure, and God's overarching fatherhood, teaching lessons about faithfulness and leading boys to love God. Feminism influences the church by challenging traditional gender roles, advocating for women's leadership (ordination, preaching), reinterpreting scripture on male headship, and promoting inclusive language for God, leading to debates between egalitarian and complementarian views, shifts in worship styles (more emotional, relational), and calls for deconstructing patriarchal structures, ultimately prompting denominations to adapt or resist changes in women's roles and theological understanding. Jack Cottrell in "HOW FEMINISM INVADED THE CHURCH" writes, "Contributing to the ease with which feminism has deceived many are two factors. One is the common idea summarized as “the newer, the truer.” I.e., the more recent an idea is, the more likely it is to be true. And since the male leadership idea is the old one, it must be outdated and passé. The feminist approach and the feminist view of Scripture, being the more recent, must be the true view. We see this pattern emerge all the time in the scientific world; therefore it must be true for the social sciences as well!
God is a patriarch. Daniel Huilt in "Biblical Patriarchy: Dispelling the Myths and Embracing God’s Design" writes, "First, we need to define patriarchy biblically. While our society most often associates patriarchy with oppression and cruelty, it simply means “father rule” Therefore, patriarchy is any hierarchy ruled by a father figure who bears certain responsibilities for specific people and exercises the associated authority over them. The most obvious patriarchy is the family, with the father as the head. He bears responsibility for his wife and children, and in fulfilling that responsibility, he must exercise authority over them.
- LGBTQ+ Identification: As of February 2025, 9.3% of U.S. adults identified as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or something other than heterosexual in a Gallup poll. This percentage has been consistently rising over the last decade.
- Lesbian Identification: Among all U.S. adults, approximately 1.9% of women identify specifically as lesbian.
- Lesbian Elected Officials: A 2025 report noted a 7% decrease in the number of out lesbian elected officials in the U.S. from the previous year.
- Generational Differences: Nearly 30% of Gen Z women identify as LGBTQ+, and over half of Gen Z women identify as feminists, suggesting a potential high correlation within that demographic, though specific intersectional numbers are unavailable.
Need more string to connect the dots?
Men that defend themselves against women are seen as abusers. Karen R. Koenig, M.Ed., LCSW in "Defending Yourself Is Not the Same as Being Abusive" writes, "Abuse isn’t occasionally fighting back with words when hurtful ones are hurled at you repeatedly and you can’t stand it any longer, especially when someone keeps digging to get a rise out of you for their own smug satisfaction. In such a case, they’re being verbally abusive and you’re protecting or defending yourself. Not. The. Same. Thing...Standing up for yourself, after letting yourself be a doormat, is not being abusive. Your anger is healthy and shows movement in the right direction which is toward eventually leaving the relationship. Abuse is offensive (pun intended), whereas protection is defensive. Sure, you might not be happy with yourself when you’re mean, but when you’re mean because you’re unhappy, that’s the start of getting healthy." To stand up for yourself means to advocate for your needs, rights, and boundaries respectfully but firmly, using assertiveness to express your feelings and opinions without being aggressive, often by saying "I feel..." statements, saying "no" without over-justifying, and avoiding apologies for your needs, which builds self-respect and leads to healthier relationships. It's about finding a balance between passivity and aggression to ensure your voice is heard and your worth is recognized.
The assertion that men are naturally guilty of abuse is inaccurate; abusive behavior is a complex issue driven by a variety of learned social, psychological, and environmental factors, not inherent biological guilt. Approximately 1 in 3 men have experienced some form of sexual violence, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Men can face significant barriers to reporting abuse due to social stigma, fear of not being believed, or feeling it conflicts with expectations of masculinity. Just know that while the majority of perpetrators of sexual and domestic violence are men, men are also a significant proportion of victims.
"Stand" is a versatile word meaning to be upright, hold a position, or take a stance. Stand up for yourself. Never backdown. Learn when to walk away.
"He who sweats more in training bleeds less in war,"
Don't raise my grandson to be nice!
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